Out of my league

“Out of my league...”

I have heard one too many guys say this.  And it annoys me every time.  I’m not sure if some people think it’s sweet - that a guy thinks a girl is ‘too good for him’ - or what, but honestly, I think it’s just an excuse.  An easy way out.

Maybe you don’t realize this, guys, but by using that line, you’re basically saying that the girl you DO end up with is ‘in your league’.  Now how do you think she’ll feel about that?  And by saying that a girl is out of your league you’re implying that...what?  You don’t rise to challenges?  You don’t accept that she IS too good for you and that you DON’T deserve her, so you’re just gonna give up?  Excuses are stupid.  And unattractive.  And immature.  Oh and it makes you look like a wimp.

Nothing comes easy in this life.  Including a woman’s heart.  Every married man who I’ve talked to has told me that he doesn’t deserve his wife.  He never did and never will.  A friendship with a woman is a gift.  A girlfriend is a gift.  A spouse is a gift.  And you’re not going to earn her trust or heart easily.  Pursuing a woman SHOULD be a challenge.  If it isn’t, it basically means that said woman doesn’t have high standards.  And in that case, you should move on.  Because a woman who doesn’t have high standards, doesn’t respect herself.  And a woman who doesn’t respect herself shouldn’t be on your radar for possible wife material.  Why?  Because if she lets you get to her so easily, what makes you think she won’t let other guys do the same?  But I digress.  That is a whole different topic.

Yesterday, I was thinking about what I wanted to say in this post.  Basically, I just wanted to express my annoyance with this term that so many guys I know have used.  And what better place to write about it than on my blog?  Hopefully this is something my readers will actually not mind reading.  And I am completely open to your thoughts and comments, so feel free to let me know what you think.  Maybe this is just a personal pet peeve.  Or maybe there are other girls out there who find this phrase dumb too.  I would like to know.

But to the guys...

Please stop saying that a girl is out of your league.  If she means anything to you, then pursuing her shouldn’t be something you cower from.  Sure, expressing feelings to a girl is a bit intimidating.  Okay, maybe a whole lot intimidating.  I totally get that.  Emotions and love and all those things are pretty intense and scary.  But don’t try to be all tough and cute and sweet by saying that “Oh yeah, she’s gorgeous and awesome but so out of my league”.  (Key word: try)  Honestly, I’ve never thought it was attractive that a guy said that.  He’s only using it as an excuse because he’s scared of trying.  But where are you going to get anywhere in this life if you’re scared?  Risk some things, okay?  Risk being rejected.  Risk not knowing her answer.  Risk pursuing her.  It may not work out.  She may say no.  But hey...what if she doesn’t?


Everyday Blessings // 26

I'm finally back!  I will try to catch up on my lack of posts.


>> visiting a friend in Pennsylvania
>> attending the 14th wedding I was invited to this year
>> receiving funds for my trip, donated by blog readers and fans
>> purchasing my ticket to Peru
>> neck pillows
>> running into a friend at a layover, and the airline being kind enough to seat us together on the flight home
>> new books
>> introducing a friend to amazing movies
>> Lucky Charms
>> performing (singing) at a cafe
>> best friends sleep-over
>> this autumn weather
>> previewing a friend's completed manuscript


How has your October been so far?


Even the broken

I've really missed blogging.  I've been in Pennsylvania for 9 days now (going home tomorrow... Oregon is calling me!!), so I will try to catch up a bit on posting.  It's been a good getaway time for me, though.  And I'm very thankful to have friends in other states who are willing to let me come stay with them for a while:)

Emily and I started an in-depth study through Philippians this week.  And as I sat here, making scribbly notes in my devotions journal, I felt prompted by the LORD to share an excerpt of it.  I pray it blesses you.


'...for I know that this will turn out for my deliverance through your prayers and the provision of the Spirit of Jesus Christ, according to my earnest expectation and hope, that I will not be put to shame in anything, but that with all boldness, Christ will even now, as always, be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death.'
- Philippians 1:19-20

Events that happen in our life may seem to us as curses.  But the beauty of knowing, serving, and trusting a sovereign God is the fact that - even amidst the most trying moments in our lives, when we feel the least brave, when we are acutely reminded of our weakness as humans...then, even then, we can hold our broken hearts up to Him and say 'Here, LORD, heal my crushed spirit.  And even now, I will still praise You.  Glorify Yourself in me.  I come to the Healer because I am a hurt and messed up individual. But I know You can, and will, use all things for Your glory.  So, Father, if there is any part of me left that You can use...take it and make it Yours.'

And He will.


Realize the opportunities

I hate it when people say they are bored.  It’s one of my greatest pet peeves.

Whenever someone tells me that they’re bored or I overhear it or read it on their social medias, I feel like yelling, “Well then get off your butts and do something!”

I feel that sometimes my peers have no idea the opportunities they have/can do and what they are capable of accomplishing because of what they have available at their fingertips.  No one sets goals anymore, either.  Have you noticed that?  It’s like everyday is just a run-of-the-mill.  And that’s where, I think, many of us go wrong - because we just don’t realize this:

As single people, living in one of the most educated and technological countries in the world, so much is at our fingertips.  We can take advantage of so much equipment, so many classes, etc.  But no.  More often than not, you hear of how ‘bored’ people are.  How they party so often and hang out with friends.  Make stupid choices.  Get drunk.  Get pregnant.  Don’t have jobs.  And it’s like...really?  There are so many people your age who would do anything to be able to trade places with you so they could have the advantages that you do.  I have met some of these people personally, and it humbled me to know the reality of just how blessed and fortunate I am. 

It’s so stupid and sad to see people waste opportunities and huge life experiences for something pleasurable that will only last a few minutes.  And also, I’ve noticed that if they DO try for something extraordinary, they get dejected at the first bump in the road.  The first rough spot they hit.  And they give up.  

Life is never going to be easy.  And the best things in this life usually come with a price.


“The ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
- Steve Jobs


P.S. Big news!  I am going to be starting some online college courses.  Pretty darn excited.