First of all, you’re not in sin if you have a crush on a guy. Just wanted to clarify that, right off the top. God created men and women to be attracted to each other – goodness sake, that’s the first step towards marriage! BUT (and that’s a big ‘but’!), having a crush on a guy CAN be taken too far…it can become lust (we’ll talk about this more in Part 2).
In 1 Timothy 5:1b - 2, Paul exhorts his young friend: ‘…treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.’ This whole verse can apply to men and women alike. Like I said above, God created men and women to be attracted to each other…and He encourages us to find pleasure and attractiveness in the opposite sex. But we must do so in utmost purity.
Now you may be wondering: ‘How do I maintain my purity while having thoughts about a guy?’
Good question! And one that a lot of girls have.
First of all, just because you may think a guy is good-looking or that you think he’s fun to be around – does NOT mean that you have a crush on him. I really want to stress that because…well, I have said that I think certain guys are attractive (in their physical features AND in their personalities) and girls would just FREAK out and say that I ‘liked’ him, ‘had a crush’ on him, etc. Well, I didn’t…and I don’t. Just because you think a guy is cute doesn’t mean you ‘like’ him. (oh, and by the way, just for future reference…if I ever mention in a post that I think a guy is good-looking…don’t accuse me of having a crush on him…thank you ;)
Anyway, back to how to maintain your purity while having thoughts about a guy…
#1 – Ask God to help you maintain your emotional purity. He honors when we try to keep ourselves pure, and He will help us in that process. It isn’t easy! (Ha! I’m sure everyone could relate to that :)
#2 – Remember that it isn’t WRONG to think about a guy…but when you realize that you are a little too often, try memorizing verses and quoting them whenever you start to think of the guy.
#3 – Ask yourself how your future husband would feel if you told him (later in life) that you used to think a lot about this one specific guy. I think he’d be really hurt…don’t you? Guard yourself against having to confess this to your husband.
I’d like to share something with you about my parents…they are so adorable together. :) Well, for example, my Mother would make a casual remark about a guy (actor, friend, etc.) being a nice-looking dude – in front of my Dad. Do you think my dad freaks out? Of course not! He already has his claim on Mama. ;) On the contrary, my Dad would usually say something like ‘Yeah, he is pretty nice-looking’ or ‘No, no. I don’t think so. Do you really?’ And the same goes with Dad. He’ll see a girl that is attractively dressed, has her hair done nice – or whatever! – and remark to Mother that he thinks she’s really pretty. But, people! Just because they find someone of the opposite sex handsome or pretty, doesn’t mean that they LIKE that person. I mean, would it be wrong to say that my brother is good-looking (which he is, by the way ;)...would it mean that I 'liked' him? I mean, seriously!
Anyway…I felt lead to write this post because I got an e-mail from a girl not too long ago, who wanted to know my ‘opinion’ on crushes…because I had made a casual remark about a Christian singer being good-looking. She made it sound like I had a crush on the guy, and honestly, I started to laugh. :) So, my opinion on crushes?
You can’t help but have them…but have them purely.
First of all, I just want to thank EVERYONE who entered this contest!! It was SUCH fun to see everyone's entries.
Second, Rachel and I had a very, very, VERY difficult time choosing the finalists!! But after much suggesting, debating and arguing (naw, we didn't argue ;)...we have finally narrowed down the choices to these three...
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Actually, more than one question here...Vanessa went all out!! :)
What's your favorite color?: I like just about every color, but if I had to pick a favorite…it’d either be purple, green or black.
What do you want to be when you grow up?: Ever since I was just a little girl, my dream was to get married and have lots and lots of children…and that is still my dream, to this day. :)
Heels or flats?: I’m already towering over everybody, so why would I want heels?! :D
Do you like real Christmas trees or fake ones better?: real
Which do you have now?: we actually don’t have a Christmas tree…
Do you have any other blogs, other than TCF and God's Daughter... that I don't know about yet?: I have a Giveaway blog (www.giveawaysgalore-blog.blogspot.com) and I plan to ‘remake’ TCF…
How do you usually do your hair?: in a bun, ponytail, half-up, French braid, or loose…
How do you guys decorate for Thanksgiving?: Mmm…we don’t really do a lot of decorating for Thanksgiving. Christmas – YES! :)
Where do you live?: Oregon :)
Do you use a nightlight?: Nope! Clock is bright enough for that :)
Do you share a bedroom with any of your sisters?: Well, E sleeps in the top bunk of my bed, but she keeps all of her toys, clothes, etc. in ‘the girl’s room’, so it’s basically my room, but she just sleeps in it. G sometimes crawls into bed with me, though ;)
Do you like studs or dangly earrings better?: I’d have to say dangly earrings ;)
White lights or colored lights (for the tree)?: Colored lights girl, right here!
Favorite Christmas music CD?: Josh Groban ‘The First Noel’
Favorite Christmas song?: Mmm…HARD question!!!
What's a book series that you really like?: Love Comes Softly (by Janette Oke), any Martha Finley books...any Louis L’Amour books too!
Would you rather be really cold or really hot?: Uh…really hot, probably. I don’t know…hard question :P
What's your favorite magazine?: my own :D *haha* Okay, okay, let’s see…Reminisce, The King’s Blooming Rose, and SUSIE.
Do you ever wear glasses?: While driving or watching a movie…
Any special Christmas traditions?: reading the Christmas story, singing Christmas songs, and drinking tea by a warm fireplace :)
I have this really, really weird tendency to associate foods with movies/books. Yeah...weird. VERY weird...and if you haven't been reading my blog for very long, let me just tell you straight up, that I am a very weird person. THIS is one of those weird quirks that I have! So...yeah...enjoy reading! :D
Movie: Pride and Prejudice – Food: apples and brie cheese
This is one of my Mama's favorite snacks...and we were watching P&P... Movie: Indiana Jones – Food: green beans
So I was making dinner in the kitchen and going back and forth from the kitchen to the living room while Dad and my brother were watching this...and I was making green beans, amongst other dinner platters...and grabbed a handful and went to sit and watch for a little while...yeah...
Movie: Get Smart (TV series) – Food/Drink: orange juice
Yeah, I was just making some orange juice while watching this...and drank it.
Movie: Sabrina (1995 with Harrison Ford and Julia Ormond) – Food: cheesecake
I had a friend of mine over and we were watching this in my room with Mama...and had leftover cheesecake (I think it was on my birthday!)...Do you remember, Teresa? ;)
Movie: Sense and Sensibility (2008) – Food: chocolate chip cookies
My sweet cousin was over and we made a huge batch of yummy chocolate chip cookies!! And watched S&S :) Love you, Hani!
Movie: Lord of the Rings – Food: pop corn
We watched this at our friends' house and their sweet mom made us pop corn to watch while we ate...that just stuck with me.
Movie: The Fugitive (OLD TV series) – Food: apples with sweetened condensed milk
I was just craving that for some reason...
Movie: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader - Food: Junior Mints
When Noah and I went to watch the new Narnia movie (IN THEATERS!), we went with our uncle...and he bought me some junior mints before we took our seats...so yeah. Eating sweets, while watching a sweet movie, with a sweet person in it! :D *haha* ;)
Anyway...yeah, so now it is totally official that I.am.weird.
What is the weirdest quirk that you have? C'mon, be honest!!!! ;)
Okay, so Rachel and I went through ALL the links that were posted to our linkys AND that were sent to us via e-mail, and we each picked our Top 5 favorites...below are mine. And you can head on over to Rachel's to see hers...(I'm not sure she has them up yet, but keep an eye out for them ;)
And without further adieu...here are my Top 5 favorites that BEST PORTRAYED Timeless Wonders...
He turned 5 months this month. :( He's getting SO big!!
This is a fairly recent pic of him...
wearing a hat made by his favorite second cousin! ;)
He loves ya, Hani! ♥ (and I do too, of course ;)
Okay, so I have been wanting to share this singer with ya'll for the LONGEST time, but...
I wanted to wait till Day #1 (because this is the NUMBER ONE artist that I am so glad I found out about this year :) of my Year End Lookback, to make it official that...
I am Jason Castro's biggest fan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And if you haven't heard of him...
I feel really sorry for you! :D
Here are links to his songs on YouTube:
The first one I ever heard of him...and in my top 5 favorites of his:
You Are (LIVE)
(a song he wrote about his love for God!)
Yeah, I know...I'm like WAY behind my peers on reading this!! But yes, I read it this year...
Thing I made:
I knitted a baby sweater and crocheted a matching hat for my 'adopted nephew', Atticus D. :) I don't have a picture of him wearing it yet, but will post it AS SOON AS I do!!! :)
It was my FIRST baby sweater and it turned out SO adorable!! (if I do say so myself ;)
I made it out of blue and white cotton yarn, and it was SO soft and warm...it'll keep him nice and cozy...especially in Colorado! :)
Place I went:
I was able to go to quite a few concerts this year!! Fabulous!! :) I'll post pictures of those soon...at the moment, I'm writing this in a hurry BECAUSE we are getting ready to eat dinner and after which, we will be reading devotions, and then opening Christmas presents!! :) Yeah, we're opening them the night before just because tomorrow morning we won't have very much time before guests start arriving!! :) YAY!!!
Oh, and before I get this post started, just wanted to let everyone know that my giveaway IS closed and I will be posting winners soon!! Just with Christmas this weekend, me and my family have been EXTRA busy preparing for our huge get-together on Saturday, and I just haven't been able to get to the drawing. Anyway...thank you for your patience! I will announce them asap. :)
My family and I have been SO blessed by the multitude of new friends that we have made this year!! We always wonder what we could've been like before we had met them. :)
Here is a link to my Facebook photo album titled: 'Friends and Family'...
And no, I don't have a 'crush' on him (as other people have been accusing me!)...he already has Arwen for that ;)
My family bought me the entire Jane Austen collection for my birthday this year...
I devoured them within a few shorts months ;)
I just thought I'd add this fun quote by Miss Austen...
Oh, by the way! Has anyone ever heard of/read the book called 'Darcy Takes a Wife' or 'Darcy and Elizabeth'? They've both by the same author...and are only a couple years old. I was tempted to buy them at a bookstore that I went to a few days ago, but hadn't really heard anything about them, so wasn't sure...If YOU have read them or know of them, please tell me your opinion! :)
Thing I made:
Well, I'm sure you've all seen the artwork that I have been slowly progressing in...
Portraits are my favorites! :)
Oh, by the way...here are the long-awaited William Mosely (High King Peter [Pevensie]) and Skandar Keyenes (King Peter [Pevensie])...what do you think? :)
You can see my other portraits in my post, '2nd period - Portrait 101'.
So...I'm pretty much done with the Narnia portrait series...well, I still have to do Eustace, but I have a feeling that won't take long. (No offense intended there!)
BUT, I'm thinking of doing a Lord of the Rings series...any 'yes'es out there?!
Place I went:
White Water Rafting with HOFCC!!! :)
The Deuscheuts (sp?) River
The whole team!! :) Oh and yes, we were able to go because we got this fabulous prize for being one of the teen teams to raise the most money for the Steps For Life walkathon!! ;) Purty neat, eh?