How to Flirt, Part One {For Girls}

Below are listed 10 ways to be a good flirt. 

After the list, are my good reasons against them. :)  Yeah, don’t freak out!  ‘Raquel is teaching girls how to flirt?!’  And guys, you’re not out of the scoop either.  Part Two coming soon. ;)

* Laugh at every single thing they say – oh, and don’t forget to bat your eyes a lot!

* Encourage them to show off.  Like when they’re flexing their muscles, rocking out to a song, joking, etc. be really encouraging!  Like laughing, saying ‘oh my word, you’re so funny!’, and more.

* Always be the first to jump at an opportunity to do something for them.

* Pretend to ‘fix’ yourself in front of them.

* Pay them compliments – a lot.

* Physical contact (hugs, touching hands, etc.)

* Try to catch their eye…

* Fix a seductive smile on them when they look your way.

* Follow them around and include yourself in their conversations.

Woowee!  Yeah, that’s a bit of a list, huh?  And there are so many more ways to flirt, but I’m only listing these few.

1:  When a guy realizes that he has a girl’s attention, it boosts his ego.  When he hears her laughing (a.k.a.: encouraging) him in whatever he’s doing/saying, it makes him feel good to be noticed.  Now I’m not saying to never laugh at something that a guy does or says! Haha  That would be pretty impossible…especially since God made guys to make girls laugh. ;)  But there are circumstances where a girl will laugh just because…she likes him and wants to get his attention.  Trust me.  That’s one of the dumbest things you can do. :P

2:  This goes hand-in-hand with #1 (above).  Most of the time, whatever the guy is doing is pretty stupid, so why do we encourage them by saying things to make them want to keep doing it?  We’re making BOTH of us look like idiots!

3:  Okay, my bro said that this is one of the most annoying things a girl can do, so…yeah, that’s coming from a guy!  And really, when you’re watching a movie or something, doesn’t it just ANNOY you when a girl jumps at trying to impress a guy by getting something for him, offering to do something to help him, etc.  So yeah…don’t do that in real life.

4:  Ooh, this is probably one of the most frustrating things that I see girls do the most often.  And most of the time, it’s very…inappropriate things that they are doing in front of them.  Such as, tucking in their shirt, fixing their bra strap, hitching up their tight jeans, raising their arms above their head in an ‘effort’ to ‘fix their hair’, etc.  Another thing that is a known fact that cause guys to stumble, is when a girl puts lipstick/lip gloss, and even chapstick, on in front of them.  It draws attention to the girl’s lips, and…that can lead to impure thoughts.  I see girls do this a lot, and no, it might not seem like a big deal to us girls, but let’s try to help our brothers out, okay?

5:  When a girl pays a guy a compliment – a compliment that is just unnecessary – it’s…bad.  Okay, and you can pay guys compliments!  That’s not a no-no or anything.  It’s good to tell your friends that they look nice today, have a great smile, you like the way they fixed their hair, etc.  That’s great!  But just…don’t go too far, okay?  And be careful HOW you say it.  For example, I told a friend (a guy friend) the other day, that the shirt he was wearing matched the color of his eyes.  (It was a blue shirt…yeah, I hear all you girls sighing ;) hahaha)  Okay, that’s a nice compliment, but it can be said different ways.  1 – it could be said just the way it is, ‘Hey, dude, that shirt matches the color of your eyes.  It looks good on you.’…OR 2 – ‘Oh my word!  That shirt is the same exact color of your eyes. ::sighs::’.  Yeah…don’t do the second one. :P

6:  Okay, physical contact is a big one.  And of course, this has to fit in with your own personal convictions.  If you’re not allowed/don’t want to hug guys, then a hug from you could be taken as being flirtatious.  If you do hug guys, then the way that you hug them can cause different…thoughts.  For me, I have always made it a point to hug a guy around the shoulders – never around the neck.  I think that would just be too intimate.  AND it could give the guy a wrong impression.  Holding hands is definitely something that I have not done with a guy – except while praying or playing a game.  And I’m guessing that most of my readers will agree with me there. :)

7:  Trying to catch their eye…oh yes, probably the most used form of flirtatiousness.  And once their eye meets you, you look away.  It makes you mysterious, and the guy wants to keep looking back at you to see if you’re still watching him.  Another no-no.

8:  This is kinda the ‘sequel’ to trying to catch their eye.  After a couple times of them looking your way, you smile.  Bleh.  Just don’t, okay?

9:  Another thing that my brother says is very, very annoying.  To have a girl following him around and trying to include her in his conversations.  Usually Noah can lose a girl like that…or at least before I come around. ;) haha  ‘Don’t flirt with my big bro, girl!’  But yeah, that’s really annoying.  And the tables can be turned and say that it’s annoying when a guy follows a girl around, but…I’m getting ahead of myself.  That’s to come in Part Two. ;)

Also, this is just a reminder...
Every girl, every guy, every situation is different.  These points are just based off of my experience (maybe not personally, but while observing other girls), and of course, they're not applicable to all of you.  So don't go commenting and freaking out that I'm 'wrong on this and this and this'.  ;)

And please remember that flirting can lead to immature attraction. If you think that flirting is the only way to show a guy that you’re interested in him…you’re wrong. God has your husband picked out for you…before the foundation of this world was laid, He knew your story. Can you imagine that? The Creator of this Universe HANDPICKED a guy, a special guy, JUST FOR YOU. Amazing, isn’t? And when people tell you (I know a lot of you even have family members who persist…) that flirting is the only way to get a guy’s attention, remind them of what I just said. That God knows who your man is. That He will bring him into your life when He chooses. You’re not the one who should be looking.


And I’ll leave you with this verse…

‘I want you to swear, O Daughters of Jerusalem, do not arouse or awaken my love until she pleases.’
~ Song of Solomon 8:4