Never Been Kissed

One of the greatest gifts that I am saving for my husband is the gift of my first kiss.


Ever since I was a little girl, my parents taught me how special of a prize a kiss was. Especially one between a man and a woman. It was not a gift to give lightly. And honestly, ever since being little and able to ‘comprehend’ what love was, I’ve always thought it was more romantic to save your kiss for that special someone…instead of ‘going around and kissing every boy in town’. :)

I have kept my lips pure. I have never kissed another guy – besides my dad and brothers (and those are only on the cheek :) – and I don’t plan to, either…until that special moment at the altar. After we say ‘I do’…after the pastor says ‘You may kiss your bride’…and after my husband raises my veil. Then, and only then, am I going to give that man one of the greatest gifts I have.

Of course, like any other part of you that you want to keep pure (your emotions, your body), it’s not easy. :) I must admit that there have been more than one guy that I wouldn’t really have had a problem kissing, but then, I would catch myself and ask ‘What on earth am I thinking? Would I give this guy one of my prize possessions? What if he’s not the right one?’ And he always turned out not to be. :D haha

There are many ways to ponder too much upon your kiss. You may think on what your kiss will be like…and where?...will he initiate it or should you? I think the best way to avoid such thoughts is to, as much as possible, stay away from things that encourage this. Chic flicks, romance novels (yes, even some Christian ones :P), etc. For some girls, it’s easier to keep your mind off of this. For others, not so much. I would encourage you to remember – and I guarantee this! – that your husband will delight in your kiss even more, knowing that no other man has touched your lips. That he is the only one who has known the delight of your kiss. And that he is the only one who will ever have that privilege.

That’s another thing that I think to myself…

If I was part of the ‘dating scene’ – always having a new boyfriend, not having my parents involved in my relationship(s) and letting my boyfriend have too much freedom in touching me – what would happen to the sweetness of keeping myself for my husband? It would be…hurtful…sad…and could even lead to marriage problems. The same goes for him. If he and his girlfriend took too much freedom in expressing their ‘like’ for each other, how would that make me feel? Put yourself in that story…

Can’t you picture yourself thinking: ‘I wonder if he thinks my kisses are as good as hers were?’ or ‘When he kisses me, does he think of the times he kissed her?’

I urge you, my sisters and brothers, to keep yourself solely for the man or woman that God has in store for you! Keep your emotions…your body…AND your kiss for that one person. God will help you in remaining faithful.

Stay strong!