From a Guy's Viewpoint...Wesley Kennedy

Hey all!

Reading over this interview (correcting misspellings and grammatical errors ;)...I have decided that it's in my Top 5.  Just sayin'...

Okay, and his name is just really, super cool...just had to get that out there.
So I'm not gonna waste time in telling you about it...just scroll down and start reading :) 

Wesley Kennedy

Age: 17

Occupation: Student at King’s Academy, Full Time Nerd

A few favorite hobbies/pastimes: “Hanging out” with Friends, Computer related stuff, etc

Favorite subject in school: Math (Now I’m teaching a math class as part of my Senior Project)

Favorite book: Other than the obvious choice (The Bible), I’d have to say Dante’s Inferno

Favorite movie: Back to the Future Series

Something you look forward to every day: my days are quite sporadic, so nothing specific “Every” day. :P

1)      What are your thoughts on modesty? Modesty is something that I see as being not a specific way of dressing; but rather, how you dress to make others around you feel. If someone is “put off” because you’re dressing with not much respect for yourself or those around you, you are not modest.

2)      Some of us feel that we either give too much effort, or not enough, in worrying about the way we dress.  What is your suggestion to how you wish girls would dress?  What do you like to see girls wearing? There is a sense of beauty that should be had with how you dress. To say you wear a dress, spend 3 hours on your hair and makeup every morning just to go grocery shopping? No.  But dress for the occasion and if a lady wants to dress up to feel better about herself, there’s nothing wrong with that! I personally try not to be looking towards the outside for dressing (Yes, cliché and answer-dodging as it may seem…) but, I do like to see that a woman is able to dress and know what’s too much or too little. I don’t have a specific choice in style. Styles change so much that I don’t see much of a point in following it or whatnot.

3)      How do you feel about girls wearing makeup? I don’t see anything wrong with it.  As long as the makeup doesn’t become your face, you’re doing ok. That being said, there’s also nothing wrong with not wearing makeup, but it’s all preference.

4)      A lot of girls worry about looking chic around guys…but what do you consider pretty? A girl who knows how to carry herself and is able to not be awkward at the sight of me, stands pretty fair in my books. If she can’t get over her own self delusions of what I think of her, then I don’t see her as someone I’d be able to go for.

5)      Do guys ever notice changes in girls?  Hair styles, clothes, etc.? I know for myself, I tend to stand back a bit in comparison to a lot of people I know and observe. Now, I don’t go off and go to a mall to just people watch or anything like that (Keep your creeper alerts away. They won’t be needed.). But, I do watch and tend to try and find differences, so…yes, I know I do.

6)      What is something that you want/look for, the most, in your future wife? The key thing I am looking for is someone who is faithful. Not only to me, but to God. Without faithfulness, there wouldn’t be a point in getting married in the first place.

7)      Do you often feel peer pressure from your friends?  In any way, but mostly in the standards that you have set for your life. Not really.  There’ll be subtle (or not so subtle) jokes here or there about things I should do. And, they’re for the best most of the time.  If there’s been any kind of friend trying to send any sort of negative peer pressure in the past, I can safely say that that bridge has been burned between us.

8)      What do you consider flirting and what do you think of a girl when she flirts with you?
Flirting has been something a lot of people of my generation have tried to peg as “alright.” I don’t think so. While I will admit I’ve caught myself doing it, I try not to. That being said, it is not the girls fault if I’m being a flirt.  That’s me – and my actions alone. On the other side of things I notice (for the most part) when a girl is flirting with me, in the times past that I can recall, it’s pretty obvious with a big red sign on them saying “give me attention.”

9)      How do you feel about dating?
I do not believe in dating. Courting on the other hand, I do believe in. It should be used as a tool to get to know the other person and show each other who you are. This being said, I entirely disagree with a lot of people of my generation who think you should date/court just so you have “practice” for the real thing when the time comes. All you’re practicing is breaking up and getting together with someone else if things aren’t working out.

10)  If you agree w/ courting, how much involvement from YOUR parents do you believe is appropriate in helping you make a final choice in your future wife?  None, some, or a lot?  Please elaborate on your answer. I believe that my parents should play a large role with my relationship with whoever may be down the road in my life. Personally, my mom and I are very close. I’m not the stereotypical homeschooled “momma’s boy” but, my mom and I have the same way of thinking for a lot of things and she knows me better than most do. So, yes, I believe when the time comes to be looking for a wife, I’ll be having a conversation with my parents on the subject and asking for their involvement.

11)  When you’re interested in a girl, do you focus on her family too?  Do you make it a point to get to know them as much as you want to get to know her?  Yes, a thousand times over. You are marrying into her family as she is marrying into yours.

12)  What is your view on college for girls? If God calls the woman to college, don’t let the arrogance of a man stop her. If she wants to go to college to meet with guys, there’s something wrong here.

13)  What is your dream job?  And why? I am hoping after I’m done going through college I dream to be an architect, along with being a Pastor. For the architect: I’ve always loved building, whether it was building small things with LEGOs, or far over to building various things for video games, drafting, or anything of the sort. For the pastor: I have been feeling called to go into the ministry for quite a while now. As times are hard, I want to go into the architecture field in order to provide for my family in the future and do my pastoral duties alongside that.

14)  What do you think the man’s role is in the home – compared to the woman’s? The man’s role is to cherish and love his wife, be a standing role model for the children, and provide for the family. As the man should be the head of the house, the woman should be there to care for the family and tend to those if they’re in need. This to say she can’t have a job, social life, or anything like that? No. If she wants to take up a job doing something she loves (Like my mom for example, she does Real Estate and LOVES it), there’s nothing wrong with that :P

15)  How many kids would you like to have?
From where I am right now… I would not want to have a single child or anything like that… Also, on the other hand, I don’t want to be the next family with 9001 children. But when it comes down to it, it’s God’s will on how many there’ll be, so I’ll respect that. And who knows, after coming to a point in my life and having a child, my views could change for either way.

16)  A lot of guys like using sarcasm around girls…do you know why that is? I myself use sarcasm no matter who I’m around. The only thing I’ve come to think of why a guy would use it, is because he wants to make himself look funnier in front the girls (or a specific girl). But, other than that, not sure.

17)  Do guys like it when girls are tomboyish or more girlie? Preference, Preference Preference… I am more of the “girlie” persuasion, but it comes back to earlier and how I said that it’s about how the girl and those around her feel.

18)  Is there anything that you would appreciate girls doing differently in order to help you maintain your purity? Forrest Blackman did a great job answering this question back when he was doing his viewpoint, however blunt it may be. “It's not their fault if I'm a pervert.  It's my responsibility to learn self control.” I don’t think I could add anymore to that, so I’ll have to go with what he said. :P

19)  What do you think about guys and girls hugging? It’s about what’s at heart. For the most part, I don’t see a problem with it (when between friends who are strictly friends). But if it’s a guy and a girl who have obvious feelings for each other (or only one towards the other), hugs “goodbye” are normally used to get closer to each other, which should be something avoided.

20)  When do you plan to have your first kiss? I would love to say I waited till my wedding. So, let’s go with that. :P

21)  How will you respond if God's plan is out of sync with your own? I’ve had it happen, and the greatest remedy is prayer… Lots and lots of prayer :P

22)  What do you think of girls posting pictures of guys on their blog? I don’t see anything wrong with it AS LONG AS it’s not a post dedicated to a guy or random pictures of “I love this man.”

23)  Do you guys sometimes get weirded out by being friends with girls? Some guys do. I did for quite a while, but it’s something of which I grew out of and as long as you are able to keep the feelings away from the friendship (as in feelings more than friendship), there’s nothing wrong with guys and girls being friends.

24)  What is one thing that girls do that you hate? When a girl puts on a façade of how she really is. I don’t want to marry someone who can’t be themselves around me. That, along with someone who tries to get my attention through ridiculous and obvious ways.

25)  To what degree should a guy and girl just 'be friends'? This is a very broad question … So I’ll answer it to the best of my knowledge… When the guy is able to support and have time for the girl, that friendship threshold I believe should be taken down. If he has the capacity for a relationship, along with having the approval of his AND her parents, the next step should happen.

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Wesley, I just loved this interview!  Loved your answers.  You are very honest, yet gracious.  May God continue to bless you as your walk in His ways.