Age: 28 (May 2, 1983)
Hobbie : Sports, studying and researching different things, working out
Favorite book: Besides the Bible, 'Before Jerusalem Fell' by Ken Gentry
Favorite movie: There are so many can't name one haha
Something you look forward to every day: What God may do
Hobbie : Sports, studying and researching different things, working out
Favorite book: Besides the Bible, 'Before Jerusalem Fell' by Ken Gentry
Favorite movie: There are so many can't name one haha
Something you look forward to every day: What God may do
1. What are your thoughts on modesty? Is it a good thing?
I believe modesty is good in everything other than your relationships with people, and with God. I believe God wants us to be overly zealous, overly passionate, and over accentuate ourselves to loving others/God, serving others/God, and using our gifts to the utmost ability and potential. (Matthew 5:38-45)
2. Some of us feel that we either give too much effort, or not enough, in worrying about the way we dress. What is your suggestion to how you wish girls would dress? What do you like to see girls wearing?
She can wear anything as long as it's not too revealing. I think 99 percent of guys would agree with that one. Long dresses, or clothing that covers the woman is ideal.
3. How do you feel about girls wearing makeup?
I think women should just be themselves and not worry so much about this issue. If women realized how beautiful they were, none of them would really wear that much makeup. They could start a trend of not wearing any makeup at all (or very little), and make it the 'norm.' Then we wouldn't have all these women out there with self esteem issues. Have y'all seen some of the celebrity females without makeup on? They look no different than average woman you see at the grocery store. I guess my personal preference is a woman who spends more time with her face in a book, than she does in the mirror.
4. A lot of girls worry about looking chic around guys, but what do you consider pretty?
I've met a lot of beautiful women outwardly, but very few of them actually had a nice personality. I would consider beautiful women those who do the best with the cards they've been dealt outwardly, while doing even more with the potential they possess inwardly.
5. Do guys ever notice changes in girls? Hair styles, clothes, etc.?
Yeah I think we notice the bigger changes, such as a change in hair color. But the minor changes, like a chipped nail, we couldn't care any less ladies....s eriously.
6. What is something that you want/look for, the most, in your future wife?
I want her to be completely focused on God's Will. Nothing else matters to me more than that, so she should feel the same way! (Psalm 143:10; 2nd Chronicles 26:5; 2nd Chronicles 27:6; John 5:30; 1 John 2:17; Proverbs 3:5-6; Matthew 26:39; John 4:31-34; John 6:38)
7. Do you often feel peer pressure from your friends?
Not as much as I used to. I'm 28 years old now, so what people think (even my friends or family) doesn't really bother me as much anymore. I just say what's on my heart, and do what I feel led to do. If people don't like it, then they don't have to. But that won't make me change who I am.
8. What do you consider flirting and what do you think of a girl when she flirts with you?
People can flirt in many different ways, but I think the most common is by lightly joking with someone, and personal compliments. I honestly wish women would flirt more than they do. Men aren't mind readers, and sometimes it's hard to know if a woman likes us or not. If she flirts with us, or even just hints that she's interested, then we might have more of an initiative to pursue her. But on the other hand, I think most guys (including myself) would be turned off by a woman who flirted too much.
9. How do you feel about dating?
I think dating is a double-edged sword. On one side, it's fun to get out and enjoy the company of the opposite sex I suppose. But the dangerous side comes when one party gets an emotional attachment, while the other doesn't. That can create sticky situations. I think it's best to just pray for God's Will each day, and make sure you follow His leading on where to go, what to do, and when to do it. (Ezekiel 3:22-27; Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV)
10. If you agree w/ courting, how much involvement from YOUR parents do you believe is appropriate in helping you make a final choice in your future wife? None, some, or a lot? Please elaborate on your answer.
Little, if any. The reason I say that is because parents are usually biased, and they THINK they know what's best for their child haha. But what it comes down to is GOD'S WILL. If it is not God's Will, then I don't care how perfect 2 people seem to be for each other. It is a meaningless union if it's not God's Will. Only God can join a man and woman together, not a piece of paper, or a blessing from a priest, pope, pastor, or even the parents of the 2 people getting married. (Mark 10:9; Psalm 127:1)
11. When you’re interested in a girl, do you focus on her family too? Do you make it a point to get to know them as much as you want to get to know her?
It's always good to remember that when you marry someone, you're not only marrying them, but their family as well. I think it's very imperative for everyone to meet your partner's family BEFORE you tie the knot. Consider all aspects of a thing before you jump into it, especially when it comes to your life mate. The divorce rate is almost 50 percent, even amongst 'christian' marriages. Going slow, and considering what you're getting into will stop your marriage from becoming another 'statistic.'
12. What is your view on college for girls?
This is sort of an ambiguous question. My politics (Libertarian), are the same as my spiritual beliefs. I believe in the INDIVIDUAL rather than the GROUP DYNAMIC. What I mean by that is, every individual person has a unique calling from God. No 2 people on earth are created the same, nor is the Will of God the same for any of us. Using a parallel here, Bruce Lee came to a conclusion in regards to martial arts, that fighting styles, forms, fashions, etc., were a hinderance to an individual's growth in learning self-defense. Bruce did not believe in the Japanese way of fighting, or the Chinese way of fighting, or Karate, etc., because you can't teach everyone to fight the same. Everyone has different strengths and different weaknesses. For example, a 7 foot tall man, weighing 300 lbs., would not have the same strengths/weaknesses in fighting as a 5'7 man weighing 160 lbs. Therefore, Bruce Lee concluded that he could not teach anyone how to fight, rather, he could only help people explore themselves. So, bringing this back into the question at hand. I believe that every situation is unique. It comes back to the INDIVIDUAL. If God called a particular woman to go to college, then what can man say in regards to that? Only the person themselves know what God is calling them to do. You cannot put trust in another man to tell you what God's Will is for your life. (1st Kings 13; Jeremiah 17:5-8; Isaiah 2:22; and the middle of the entire bible = Psalm 118:8)
13. What is your dream job? And why?
I think I have too many passions to pinpoint just one career, so I'd like to have or create a job where I could integrate teaching, leisure, and spirituality all in one.
14. What do you think the man’s role is in the home – compared to the woman’s?
He should be the leader, and role model for his family. She should be a leader and role model at times too. I think it's all about give and take. Men have obviously been given certain strengths that women don't have, and vice versa. Each couple should figure out how to intertwine their skill set into the home accordingly.
15. How many kids would you like to have?
A whole yard full of 'em ! haha jk... or maybe I'm not. I'd like to have at least 3. (Psalm 127:3-5)
16. A lot of guys like using sarcasm around girls, do you know why that is?
I think guys are very logical creatures, so we use this form of language to make people think LOGICALLY. Being sarcastic has a way of making people consider the rhetorical view of something. We use the sarcasm to make you see things for what they really are. Being around enough women to know the species *cough* most of them are more emotional, rather than logical (no offense ladies, but it is true for the most part. haha). So I think it's instinctual for a man to use sarcasm as a ploy to bring out the logical side of a woman's brain?
17. Do guys like it when girls are tomboyish or more girlie?
I think a mixture of both is good, but more to the girlie side. For example, I would love for a woman I'm in a relationship with (or future wife), to feel comfortable wearing my clothes, playing basketball, or throwing the football around. But I also like her to have her feminine likes and hobbies. I like athletic women, but with a greater vibe of feminity.
18. Is there anything that you would appreciate girls doing differently in order to help you maintain your purity?
A lot of women don't realize how easy it is for men to start lusting, (or, contrary to what most people believe, even fall in love). Men are a lot more sensitive than women would like to think. We have emotions that run deep, but we don't often reveal them. One stare or smile from a woman could be all it takes for a man to fall head over heels for her. As it relates to the way a woman dresses, this can also affect the carnal 'beastly nature' side of a man. I've heard a lot of women say that they deck themselves out just because they love to do it, which is their prerogative, but they must also consider what effect it is having on their male cohorts. Women can't expect a man to maintain his purity when she is wearing revealing clothing, and a lot of makeup. King David was a man after God's own heart, but he fell prey to the beauty of a woman (Bathsheba). His guards even told David that she was a married woman, but the lust was so strong that he had to have her! King Solomon was the wisest man on earth, but he fell into the trap of marrying 1,000 women (which boggles my mind, because I've lived in towns that didn't even have that many people. haha). Samson was a strong man, and the anointing of God was on him greatly, but even he slept with a prostitute, and fell in love with Delilah, who tricked him into cutting off all his hair (which was why the Lord's anointing was on him). If this can befall mighty men of God like these 3, then it can happen to ANY MAN. If you women realized how beautiful you are to us, and how instinctually strong it is for a man to desire a woman, then you wouldn't even feel the need to wear makeup or dress fancy. Men would still desire women even if they wore no makeup, and walked around in potato sacks all day lol. Why do you think the men in the MIddle East have the women cover themselves from head to toe? It's because they understand the power of a woman's beauty. So be considerate when you decide to wear a piece of clothing or deck yourself out in makeup. (Judges 16; 2nd Samuel 11; 1st Kings 11; 1 Timothy 2:9-10; 1 Peter 3:3-4)
19. What are your thoughts on guys and girls hugging?
It depends on whether the man and woman know each other that well. Make sure the hugs aren't in private if the 2 don't know each other that well. Private hugs can always turn into something more.
20. When do you plan to have your first kiss?
I've already had my first kiss, but if I could do it over again, I would have waited for my wedding day too. Casual dating is no good. You end up getting your heart attached to the wrong person, and then you have to go through the heartache of moving on, after God separates you from them. Hold on to that first kiss for the right person.
21. How will you respond if God's plan is out of sync with your own? In general?
I think there is a lot of give and take within our relationship to God. He will test our hearts to make sure that He is number 1, but He also wants to give us our heart's desire. I wake up every single day and faithfully pray that God's Will would be done in my life (and the lives of every person I've ever met, or rubbed shoulders with). I do my best to submit to Him in every area. So I also expect that He will give me my desires, or at the least, change my desires to fit what He wants. (Psalm 37:4)
I believe modesty is good in everything other than your relationships with people, and with God. I believe God wants us to be overly zealous, overly passionate, and over accentuate ourselves to loving others/God, serving others/God, and using our gifts to the utmost ability and potential. (Matthew 5:38-45)
2. Some of us feel that we either give too much effort, or not enough, in worrying about the way we dress. What is your suggestion to how you wish girls would dress? What do you like to see girls wearing?
She can wear anything as long as it's not too revealing. I think 99 percent of guys would agree with that one. Long dresses, or clothing that covers the woman is ideal.
3. How do you feel about girls wearing makeup?
I think women should just be themselves and not worry so much about this issue. If women realized how beautiful they were, none of them would really wear that much makeup. They could start a trend of not wearing any makeup at all (or very little), and make it the 'norm.' Then we wouldn't have all these women out there with self esteem issues. Have y'all seen some of the celebrity females without makeup on? They look no different than average woman you see at the grocery store. I guess my personal preference is a woman who spends more time with her face in a book, than she does in the mirror.
4. A lot of girls worry about looking chic around guys, but what do you consider pretty?
I've met a lot of beautiful women outwardly, but very few of them actually had a nice personality. I would consider beautiful women those who do the best with the cards they've been dealt outwardly, while doing even more with the potential they possess inwardly.
5. Do guys ever notice changes in girls? Hair styles, clothes, etc.?
Yeah I think we notice the bigger changes, such as a change in hair color. But the minor changes, like a chipped nail, we couldn't care any less ladies....s eriously.
6. What is something that you want/look for, the most, in your future wife?
I want her to be completely focused on God's Will. Nothing else matters to me more than that, so she should feel the same way! (Psalm 143:10; 2nd Chronicles 26:5; 2nd Chronicles 27:6; John 5:30; 1 John 2:17; Proverbs 3:5-6; Matthew 26:39; John 4:31-34; John 6:38)
7. Do you often feel peer pressure from your friends?
Not as much as I used to. I'm 28 years old now, so what people think (even my friends or family) doesn't really bother me as much anymore. I just say what's on my heart, and do what I feel led to do. If people don't like it, then they don't have to. But that won't make me change who I am.
8. What do you consider flirting and what do you think of a girl when she flirts with you?
People can flirt in many different ways, but I think the most common is by lightly joking with someone, and personal compliments. I honestly wish women would flirt more than they do. Men aren't mind readers, and sometimes it's hard to know if a woman likes us or not. If she flirts with us, or even just hints that she's interested, then we might have more of an initiative to pursue her. But on the other hand, I think most guys (including myself) would be turned off by a woman who flirted too much.
9. How do you feel about dating?
I think dating is a double-edged sword. On one side, it's fun to get out and enjoy the company of the opposite sex I suppose. But the dangerous side comes when one party gets an emotional attachment, while the other doesn't. That can create sticky situations. I think it's best to just pray for God's Will each day, and make sure you follow His leading on where to go, what to do, and when to do it. (Ezekiel 3:22-27; Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV)
10. If you agree w/ courting, how much involvement from YOUR parents do you believe is appropriate in helping you make a final choice in your future wife? None, some, or a lot? Please elaborate on your answer.
Little, if any. The reason I say that is because parents are usually biased, and they THINK they know what's best for their child haha. But what it comes down to is GOD'S WILL. If it is not God's Will, then I don't care how perfect 2 people seem to be for each other. It is a meaningless union if it's not God's Will. Only God can join a man and woman together, not a piece of paper, or a blessing from a priest, pope, pastor, or even the parents of the 2 people getting married. (Mark 10:9; Psalm 127:1)
11. When you’re interested in a girl, do you focus on her family too? Do you make it a point to get to know them as much as you want to get to know her?
It's always good to remember that when you marry someone, you're not only marrying them, but their family as well. I think it's very imperative for everyone to meet your partner's family BEFORE you tie the knot. Consider all aspects of a thing before you jump into it, especially when it comes to your life mate. The divorce rate is almost 50 percent, even amongst 'christian' marriages. Going slow, and considering what you're getting into will stop your marriage from becoming another 'statistic.'
12. What is your view on college for girls?
This is sort of an ambiguous question. My politics (Libertarian), are the same as my spiritual beliefs. I believe in the INDIVIDUAL rather than the GROUP DYNAMIC. What I mean by that is, every individual person has a unique calling from God. No 2 people on earth are created the same, nor is the Will of God the same for any of us. Using a parallel here, Bruce Lee came to a conclusion in regards to martial arts, that fighting styles, forms, fashions, etc., were a hinderance to an individual's growth in learning self-defense. Bruce did not believe in the Japanese way of fighting, or the Chinese way of fighting, or Karate, etc., because you can't teach everyone to fight the same. Everyone has different strengths and different weaknesses. For example, a 7 foot tall man, weighing 300 lbs., would not have the same strengths/weaknesses in fighting as a 5'7 man weighing 160 lbs. Therefore, Bruce Lee concluded that he could not teach anyone how to fight, rather, he could only help people explore themselves. So, bringing this back into the question at hand. I believe that every situation is unique. It comes back to the INDIVIDUAL. If God called a particular woman to go to college, then what can man say in regards to that? Only the person themselves know what God is calling them to do. You cannot put trust in another man to tell you what God's Will is for your life. (1st Kings 13; Jeremiah 17:5-8; Isaiah 2:22; and the middle of the entire bible = Psalm 118:8)
13. What is your dream job? And why?
I think I have too many passions to pinpoint just one career, so I'd like to have or create a job where I could integrate teaching, leisure, and spirituality all in one.
14. What do you think the man’s role is in the home – compared to the woman’s?
He should be the leader, and role model for his family. She should be a leader and role model at times too. I think it's all about give and take. Men have obviously been given certain strengths that women don't have, and vice versa. Each couple should figure out how to intertwine their skill set into the home accordingly.
15. How many kids would you like to have?
A whole yard full of 'em ! haha jk... or maybe I'm not. I'd like to have at least 3. (Psalm 127:3-5)
16. A lot of guys like using sarcasm around girls, do you know why that is?
I think guys are very logical creatures, so we use this form of language to make people think LOGICALLY. Being sarcastic has a way of making people consider the rhetorical view of something. We use the sarcasm to make you see things for what they really are. Being around enough women to know the species *cough* most of them are more emotional, rather than logical (no offense ladies, but it is true for the most part. haha). So I think it's instinctual for a man to use sarcasm as a ploy to bring out the logical side of a woman's brain?
17. Do guys like it when girls are tomboyish or more girlie?
I think a mixture of both is good, but more to the girlie side. For example, I would love for a woman I'm in a relationship with (or future wife), to feel comfortable wearing my clothes, playing basketball, or throwing the football around. But I also like her to have her feminine likes and hobbies. I like athletic women, but with a greater vibe of feminity.
18. Is there anything that you would appreciate girls doing differently in order to help you maintain your purity?
A lot of women don't realize how easy it is for men to start lusting, (or, contrary to what most people believe, even fall in love). Men are a lot more sensitive than women would like to think. We have emotions that run deep, but we don't often reveal them. One stare or smile from a woman could be all it takes for a man to fall head over heels for her. As it relates to the way a woman dresses, this can also affect the carnal 'beastly nature' side of a man. I've heard a lot of women say that they deck themselves out just because they love to do it, which is their prerogative, but they must also consider what effect it is having on their male cohorts. Women can't expect a man to maintain his purity when she is wearing revealing clothing, and a lot of makeup. King David was a man after God's own heart, but he fell prey to the beauty of a woman (Bathsheba). His guards even told David that she was a married woman, but the lust was so strong that he had to have her! King Solomon was the wisest man on earth, but he fell into the trap of marrying 1,000 women (which boggles my mind, because I've lived in towns that didn't even have that many people. haha). Samson was a strong man, and the anointing of God was on him greatly, but even he slept with a prostitute, and fell in love with Delilah, who tricked him into cutting off all his hair (which was why the Lord's anointing was on him). If this can befall mighty men of God like these 3, then it can happen to ANY MAN. If you women realized how beautiful you are to us, and how instinctually strong it is for a man to desire a woman, then you wouldn't even feel the need to wear makeup or dress fancy. Men would still desire women even if they wore no makeup, and walked around in potato sacks all day lol. Why do you think the men in the MIddle East have the women cover themselves from head to toe? It's because they understand the power of a woman's beauty. So be considerate when you decide to wear a piece of clothing or deck yourself out in makeup. (Judges 16; 2nd Samuel 11; 1st Kings 11; 1 Timothy 2:9-10; 1 Peter 3:3-4)
19. What are your thoughts on guys and girls hugging?
It depends on whether the man and woman know each other that well. Make sure the hugs aren't in private if the 2 don't know each other that well. Private hugs can always turn into something more.
20. When do you plan to have your first kiss?
I've already had my first kiss, but if I could do it over again, I would have waited for my wedding day too. Casual dating is no good. You end up getting your heart attached to the wrong person, and then you have to go through the heartache of moving on, after God separates you from them. Hold on to that first kiss for the right person.
21. How will you respond if God's plan is out of sync with your own? In general?
I think there is a lot of give and take within our relationship to God. He will test our hearts to make sure that He is number 1, but He also wants to give us our heart's desire. I wake up every single day and faithfully pray that God's Will would be done in my life (and the lives of every person I've ever met, or rubbed shoulders with). I do my best to submit to Him in every area. So I also expect that He will give me my desires, or at the least, change my desires to fit what He wants. (Psalm 37:4)
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Thank you so much for taking the time to do this interview, Mark. I pray that God blesses you with your heart's desires as you continue to grow in His grace and knowledge.
Many blessings!
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whoa, he has the same birthday as me.... A few years off, but same month and date. XD sweeeet.
Great interview! I had fun reading all of Mark's answers :) Especially loved how he referred back to the Bible, that was fabulous :)
Cool! The "from a guy's viewpoint" returns. Always interesting interviews to read. Thanks, Raquel.
Just as a side note: the new book by RSJames What is He Thinking?? is a wonderful read. Great interviews, and for any girl who is "worried" about meeting a guy who believes as they do, this book proves they are out there.
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